I heartily wish I could tell you that playing a role or faking it till you make it works in the long run.
In general, it could work sometime in the short term – when you feel down and you smile anyways or when you shift your focus to be more positive – but playing a part, showing a person who isn’t really you is not going to make you more confident or self-loving – on the contrary.
You might have heard of the impostor syndrome – Successful people who feel as if they are not good enough and that someday they are going to get caught. In a way, they know they are confident and that they already proved their capacity all too many times – but somehow, they still feel judgmental and uncertain about themselves.
They lack real self-love and compassion towards themselves – they are faking it, making it, but they still don’t feel good enough, they don’t have the core confidence that they are good enough as they are, they feel fake since they are faking it.
In our society, we see fake everywhere – models are being Photo-shopped, many are wearing makeup, working out many hours a day, buying expensive cars to impress and even undergo surgeries to look a certain way.
We try doing our best to fit in, to buy expensive things and to look our best according to the perfect image that our society requires – but no matter how much we succeed, we still feel empty and that we are never enough.
Unfortunately, developing self-love and self-esteem is not made by a quick-fix or by acting.
It is a process that needs your motivation and investment.
What we need is to be real, to feel meaningful and see ourselves and the rest of the world from a deeper perspective.
You need to have the courage to look within and do your own inner-work, to face your fears, challenge yourself and forgive yourself and others.
It may take some time and energy but you are going to see a big difference each time you look at how you changed in the last few months and the last year.
You are going to see a progress that is here to stay and feel much more fulfilled and happy about yourself – accepting and loving yourself just as you are.
Let’s make a deeper and meaningful change together!
